hello i hope everyone had a nice v-day! this is quite unromantic but im gonna recommend 2 books to everyone! why?? obviously cos its about BGR. and of course from a Christian perspective. haha.
(DISCLAIMER: i'm also very inexperienced abt BGR stuff)
1. i kissed dating goodbye by joshua harris
i know the title is weird and maybe you're thinking, ‘huh? how to get a bf/gf i don't date’. but in american context, "dating" is sort of like flirting -- like going out with ppl/becoming intimate with ppl that you're not committed to being in a relationship with. So this guy Joshua harris, who used to be a big flirt, decided when he was 18 that he was gonna stop dating/flirting, until he was sure that he was ready to commit (ie. having marriage as the end goal of his relationship, and not just dating for fun or the excitement). This book is mostly about singlehood – what it means, why you should not date if you're not ready to commit, and how to prepare yourself to be a godly boyfriend/girlfriend, or husband/wife. Because actually, as a single, we have A LOT to prepare for. It also talks about relevant stuff like crushes, and non-romantic friendships with the opposite gender. sometimes the BGR talks we listen to don’t really deal indepth regarding these stuffs. Anyway I’m sure that for MOST of us, since it’ll be probably be at least a couple more years before we enter a r’ship (i think..), so this book will prepare us well for it, and also teach us how to be the kind of bro-in-Christ and sis-in-Christ that we should be to one another.
2. boy meets girl: say hello to courtship (also by Joshua harris)
The guy wrote this book after getting married, so this book is mostly about relationship stuffs – like, what a couple should/shouldn’t do in a r’ship. he shares a lot about his own love story and his struggles with lust. While he makes a lot of recommendations on what to do as a couple (i.e. he and his wife didn’t kiss til their wedding day), his focus is on how grow your r’ship in a godly way, what are the important things to be praying about, how to communicate well to each other etc. This book is more exciting ‘cos there are more love stories (haha) but personally, I think the first book is more important.
(this guy is now a pastor and has 3 kids. he's got a website, www.joshharris.com)
I have both books so feel free to borrow from me :) but seems like got ‘waiting list’ forming already..lol.
have a LOVE-ly day ahead and dont forget to study for bible quiz!
beck
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